Years ago, I read a book on the Rwandan genocide. I’ll neverforget one scene in particular. The journalist who wrote the book was visitinga village. He was with his group and his guide when he heard a scream from awoman coming from the nearby village. The first scream was followed by a numberof screams from within the community. He asked his guide what was happening andthe guide explained it was an alarm system. I cry, you cry. The first meant thewoman was in the distress, the following cries meant, “Hey, we hear you. We’recoming.”

How often do we feel alone in our distress? How often are wemet with “Oh, it’s not that bad”, or “At least…” (no matter how that sentenceends it’s not helpful), or we’re met with complacency? When what we need is toknow someone hears us, they feel our distress with us—I cry, you cry. And theycome running. Not walking, not when it’s convenient; they come as fast as theycan.

We all know there’s an opioid epidemic in America right now.Opiates are pain relievers and I can’t help but wonder about the pain inAmerica. It spans across the generations—no one is exempt from pain. And “paindemands to be felt”. From elementary school kids to the elderly, people are inpain. Healthy relationships release natural opioids in the brain. Relationshipsare natural pain relievers. So, what would happen if when I cry, you cry? Whatwould happen if I cried out for help and my community came running? What wouldit be like if we felt seen, and heard, and our pain felt by someone else? Ihave a feeling those painful seasons of life wouldn’t hurt so badly.  

At Restoration Hope Counseling, we’re here to walk with youthrough those painful seasons. If you need to feel seen and heard in yourdistress, we’re here. We can talk about your options and figure out what mightbe most beneficial: counseling, EMDR, or neurofeedback. Neurofeedback can alsobe a great intervention to support those working to get sober.


Things you can do during those painful seasons of life:

Find Community:

  • Your local community center has leagues andclasses for all ages.
  • MOPS—Mothers of Pre-schoolers
    • This is a nation-wide group supporting motherwith young children.
  • Find support groups relevant to what you’redealing with.
    • Adoption, parents of kids with Autism, grief,etc.
  • Get involved with a small group at a localchurch.

Supporting those struggling with suicidality

  • If you’re worried about a loved one beingsuicidal, here are some things you can do:
    • Ask—asking is not going to give them the idea ifthey haven’t thought of it already.
    • Do they have a plan?
    • If yes, do they have the means to carry out thatplan?
    • If yes, on a scale of 1-10, how likely are theyto carry out this plan?
    • If you are concerned about someone’s safety,call the non-emergency line for the police department to request a WelfareCheck. If the situation is emergent, call 911. The non-emergency line inLittleton is 303-794-1551

For those struggling with substance use:

*The book referenced: “We wish to inform you that tomorrowwe will be killed with our families” by Philip Gourevitch

* “Pain demands to be felt”: John Green, The Fault in Our Stars

*The information contained herein is not therapeutic advice nor a substitute for therapy. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any mental health problem. If you are located within the United States and you need emergency assistance please call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. If you are located within Colorado you may also call the Colorado Crisis Line at 844-493-TALK (8255).

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