“I’m just not sexually attracted to my partner anymore.” Has someone said this to you? Has someone said this about you? Have you said this? Hurtful- yes; Honest- yes; Hopeless- no You may be surprised to hear that this is a very common sentiment and actually makes a lot of sense when you begin to break […]
I’ll start with a question: What is it that determines if a person will be “successful” or not at a difficult task? Take a second and think about how you would answer that question. For many years my answer might have been “innate ability,” “willpower,” or some combination of the two. Recently, however, I […]
This may be hard to believe but just because you are feeling something, does not mean that it is a fact. While objectively many of us recognize that feelings ≠ facts, this common cognitive distortion (called emotional reasoning) tends to creep in and often shapes how we think about ourselves and the world. So what […]
Grief and loss are part of life, but how we recognize and experience loss and how we work with grief can vary differently depending on our cultures, belief systems, the type of loss, and more. Many of us recognize loss only as something concrete, the death of a mother, a father, a child, and so […]
I have had several conversations lately with people regarding noticing feeling more reactive and sensing that others seem to feel or appear more reactive as well. What I mean by this is responding more emotionally or intensely to a stimuli than what one might assume would be the usual response. Often, it is a fight […]
I think it’s safe to say that most of us are addicted to our phones and more specifically, social media. “The average person spends over 3 hours on their phone each day, including approximately 2 and a half hours on social media. While it may seem like a harmless pastime, research shows that doing anything […]
Preteens and social media- Woof. This is a big topic. If you are feeling lost about how to approach this and what boundaries to set, know that you are not alone! This is the most common point of tension that I see between preteens and their parents and is genuinely very difficult to navigate. So […]
Over-Generalizations Over-generalizations are one type of cognitive distortion that can impact mental health and well-being. What are they? Over-generalizations are, in essence, making assumptions about something that we do not really have enough evidence or knowledge about. Often it is a sweeping statement about things that might not be fair to assume (Martin, R., 2019). […]
With music being as popular as it is for a source of regulating or supporting us in coping through emotions, I wanted to highlight a few ways that it can be helpful for us. Often we can feel the difference that playing a song has on us, such as giving us a release of emotion […]
When was the last time you told a friend how much you appreciated them? …A child what you enjoy about spending time with them? …Or what you admire about your partner? Our words are powerful! We know how good it feels to hear something positive about ourselves, yet so often we forget or do not […]