Is the Way You View Intelligence Shaping Your Ability?

I’ll start with a question: What is it that determines if a person will be “successful” or not at a difficult task?   Take a second and think about how you would answer that question.  For many years my answer might have been “innate ability,” “willpower,” or some combination of the two. Recently, however, I […]
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Addressing behaviors is not the same thing as treating trauma

It happened again, the meltdown over homework. But I don’t just mean tears and whining, I mean a fit to end all fits. The screams pierce your ears, things are being thrown, the book is being torn. The snack you offered is now all over your shirt. It’s one thing when a three-year-old has a […]
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Why do I have anxiety?

Well, let me start with—I don’t know why you specifically have anxiety; however, I have many questions only you can answer and maybe that can help you start to understand it a little better. Does it run in your family? This matters for a couple reasons: 1. You could have the genetic predisposition for mental […]
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Helping Kids with Behaviors: Part 1

Playful REDIRECTIONs One of the biggest reasons kids end up in counseling is because of fits. The knock-down, blow-out fit that takes parents, teachers, and caregivers by surprise. Because one minute they’re fine and the next, well…they’re not. They’ve flipped the switch. Nothing’s getting through and everyone is hanging on for dear life. Fits derail […]
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Finding Your Due North

This weekend I went tubing with some friends. We were floating the river, which was pretty low and there were a few rapids to go down. Nothing too crazy, I mean, we were in innertubes, but exciting enough that you needed to pay attention to the water. I was in the 2nd worst tube on […]
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Making Peace in Your Relationships

Relationships can be so challenging. Obviously—I know. But the reality of that has been hitting close to home recently. One of my very best friends and I have had a really difficult season of friendship. I know so often we talk about romantic relationships and parent/child relationships, but for many of us, our friends become […]
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The Power of Play

Let’s get ready to rumble!!!!! Play is powerful! It’s good for babies, tots, teens, and adults. We all need play in our lives! And there are many different types of play: structured play, therapeutic play, FREE play, and rough and tumble play! It’s all important. Some play, like coloring or making jewelry, teaches fine motor […]
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What’s typical in teens

To all the parents who think their teen has absolutely lost it, Before we go on, I NEVER want to minimize the struggles teens are going through these days. The fact is they live in a very different world than any generation that came before them. I think there are a lot of factors contributing […]
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THE golden RATIO

The Golden Ratio. And we’re not talking about peanut butter and jelly.  We’re talking about positive to negative interactions.  Every interaction – Every statement – Every tone – makes an enormous impact on your child. 6:1. 6 positive interactions to every 1 negative interaction. It seems like a lot. And after practice and awareness, you […]
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